What makes you different, makes you it! [bad ass black girl.]

In a world that’s so accessible it’s easy to be trendy and hard to be yourself. You sometimes find yourself brushing over your uniqueness with what society deems as official. Majority of the time its done unknowingly but a portion of it is done to fit in. We have to encourage each other to be ourselves… that’s how the world continues evolving. Never dim your light attempting to fill the status quo of what someone else believes is right. Not one person is the same… we were all made unique for a reason. Sooner or later you will understand why and when you do you’ll see: What makes you different, makes you it!

I remember back in 2013, the scene in Chicago was buzzing. This is when I was introduced to all of the designer things and the lifestyle that came along with it. Honestly, I was in awe. I wanted to incorporate somethings that I saw from the scene into my lifestyle, which I did. However, this is at a time in my life when I was at my peak of being “vintage” and the beginning of me being natural. Overpriced (Urban) Outfitters was my favorite store and I was telling everybody how dangerous relaxing your hair was. The most make up I wore was cheap lipstick or a little gloss… thank God for introducing me to MAC! But, I had friends who were completely different. They were more so into the main stream of things. I was okay with that but sometimes I had thoughts of changing into what I thought was more acceptable.

When I went natural it wasn’t as appreciated as it is now. I received crazy comments all the time. On a daily basis to be honest.  I had people asking millions of questions on why I would cut my hair. When I wore scarfs people automatically assumed I was born in Africa or Muslim. Overall, people just didn’t get it and I learned that was okay.

I learned early in life growing up in a Muslim household that it was a lot that I didn’t have in common with my peers. I always attempted to embrace and educate than to redekule or take offense. It’s was a journey to say the least. Only because sometimes you’d rather blend in that to stand out. I definitely went through that phase but I knew going natural especially then was something I did for myself and not the world. I had to remind and encourage myself of that often.

Looking back now and seeing how things changed, I’m appreciative for the journey. What was called different then is now more accepted. Everyone is natural and we’re all loving it. Those crazy questions like, “Why do you want to wear the hair that grows from your scalp?” don’t come up as often. Just keep in mind that what is titled “trendy” is probably something that wasn’t embraced by the majority first. But, someone appreciated it. Our unique choices and characteristics are the ingredients to what makes us “It!”. 

Be encouraged to be yourself and do it unapologetically. My journey may have been with natural hair. Yours may be something completely different. Regardless of the journey we know its not  an easy one to walk alone. But, whatever you do please don’t dim your light… the world needs that shine and you could be the very person who the world desperately needs. Flaunt your different; it makes you IT!

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Just a little encouragement. Feel free to share your thoughts and personal stories below. Keep shining!

#badassblackgirl.

-KM

 

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bad ass black girl.: KeKe Palmer

You either love her or you can’t stand her– Miss Keke Palmer! She’s came a long way from Akeila and the Bee. Now a days Keke is making records, stirring up a little drama, and inspiring people all at the same time. That’s the recipe for being a #badassblackgirl! Keke may not do what we want her to do but she does what she wants to do… and she stays true to herself while doing it. You can’t hate her for that– or maybe you can but it’s foolish. So we welcome Keke Palmer to the community by twerking a little bit and then saying an inspirational quote after lol– cause that’s just what this bad ass black girl does! Keep on doing you Keke! We love you for it and the gag is you’re inspiring girls all around the world to be themselves. We appreciate you honey! 

bad ass black girl.: Issa Rae

Insecure is something we all are but it takes a #badassblackgirl to admit it. Issa Rae is the creator of the new HBO series “Insecure” a show that doesn’t fall short from being every bit of realistic. The series showcases the friendship, relationship, and just everyday life of a black girl. Issa first started with YouTube videos and took flight with “Insecure.” I know that everybody is itching for Season 2! If you haven’t seen the series please stop cheating yourself! Issa is a bad ass black girl because instead of trying to dress it up she came real… the images you see on “Insecure” and the issues that are being put on the table is nothing but realistic and thought provoking. So we welcome this bad ass black girl to the community with open arms! Issa we thank you for placing images within the main stream that are regular but barely seen. You go head with your bad ass! We got your back! #badassblackgirl.

bad ass black girl.: Solange

All the #badassblackgirls to the table! It’s time that we have a toast for a phenomenal job done! (*raises glass*) Solange showed up and showed out with her album, “A Seat At The Table.” — she hushed those who may have doubted, created a stir with the cover, and defined her own lane! The album is an ode to the millennial black girl. Solo served truth, sass, and a couple of pretty middle fingers to the opposition! She defines a bad ass black girl so well and gracefully! She rocks all of her roles and inspires plenty. This is a toast to a prosperous 2017! Cheers to a job well done Solange! A bad ass black girl indeed! 

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The Campaign: bad ass black girl. 

The idea formulated from my personal journey within revolutionary work. If you know me then you know I switch it up often.. to a certain extent I’m unpredictable. I’m this way only because I don’t like the feeling of being boxed in. I know there are plenty of bad ass black girls just like me. I’m speaking of those girls who are in love with who they are and the culture of being black. Those who have causal “black lives matter conversations” but still have a cocktail and listen to Future. The girls who are socially aware but aren’t overly consumed (Even if you are I’m talking about you too!). The happy medium of turnt and woke. I want to shine light on women similar to me.. those girls who love fashion, love music, love knowledge, and enjoy a good time. Those girls who are not afraid of doing their own thing but do their thing in the essence of being fully aware of their crown. Those girls who get in their glo and don’t shy away from what makes them unique. I crown these girls “bad ass black girls.”

In society it’s such a big stigma on who we should be, what we should be doing, what we should eat lol.. etc. It’s like now a days we all attempt to fit into a mold when we know damn well we are unmoldable! I’m telling you bad ass black girl this is for you. I’m asking that you step front and center and join a community of other bad asses who are saying, “Hey! This is me! Love it? Hate it? Don’t matter! I am here to shake somethings up and have fun while doing it!” This is our year to bask in the greatness of what may not be the status quo but it’s our own personal status. Trust me somebody appreciates it and we are about to make it cool to be yourself again.

So I’m saying all of this to say come join me and some other bad ass black girls. I’m running this campaign all year long. I want you to submit your stories, your questions, your friends, and who you think should be featured as a #badassblackgirl to definebadassblackgirl@gmail.com. The takeover starts NOW!

They couldn’t stand us in 2016 with the #blackgirlmagic.. they are going sit down for us now because the #badassblackgirls are about to introduce themselves and inspire! Please submit your submissions to definebadassblackgirl@gmail.com. I am honored to feature you!

-KM

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-KM